"The Real Secret to Confidence, Creativity, and Joy? Your Body."

Buy this book, build your sexual confidence and enjoy your sex life.

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Hey you,

Welcome to Pillow Talk, your weekly dose of inspiration, guidance, and actionable tools to help you reclaim your desire, build sexual confidence, and deepen intimacy.

You deserve a vibrant, pleasurable, and deeply fulfilling sex life. ✨

Hi lovely,

Wow, I’m back in UK for a few weeks and the weather here is incredible. I honestly fall in love with this place when the sun is out. Hard to beat it. I hope you’re having an equally beautiful week wherever you are!

Guess what, we’re just 9 days away from the publication of our debut book ‘Turn Yourself On: Get Confident, Discover Pleasure and Find Your Power’.

That means there are only 9 days left to pre-order a copy and get your hands on these unbelievable free gifts (which I’ve once again, made even more enticing)!

The image is a clue…explained below! The perfect match for us 😍

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Total Prize Value: £489.99!

Pre-order your copy of the book now for just £17.47 (8% discount on Amazon) and you'll automatically enter to win an incredible bundle of gifts worth £489.99, plus receive one year of free access to the Ferly app.

This is an extraordinary deal. The book itself is packed with value, offering over 40 downloadable tools exclusively available through the companion website for book owners.

This deal is only live until the 22nd May, publication day.

Only 9 more days. How exciting!!

This Week’s Read…

As I said last week, today we’re going to talk about communication because, according to you, after self-confidence, this area of your sexual wellbeing needs the most attention.

Also, thank you to everyone that emailed me last week - apparently the newsletter really resonated. It makes my day to hear from you and read your emails so please don’t be shy. I love learning more about you, the women who read this every week.

🗣️ So, Let’s Talk About Communication

Today, let’s talk about one of the most misunderstood parts of sex and intimacy:
Communication.

We’re told to “just say what we want.”
To speak up.
To be clear.
To stop expecting our partners to read our minds.

But no one really teaches us how to talk about sex without feeling awkward, exposed, or ashamed.

How do you say what you need when you’re not even sure what that is?

How do you express something vulnerable without worrying it will hurt the other person or ruin the mood?

So many people I work with say things like:

But underneath all of that is a fear that their desires won’t be met with care. That their honesty will be too much.

Or worse, that their partner won’t hear them at all.

What is Sexual Communication?

In our book, Turn Yourself On, we reframe communication as a form of intimacy, not a confrontation.
It’s not about being perfect or polished.
It’s about being honest. Brave. Relational.

Good sex isn’t about being good at sex.
It’s about being good at talking about it — before, during, and after.

And that’s a skill most of us were never taught.

Instead, we learned to shut down. Or over-accommodate. Or stay silent and hope things get better.

Resonate with anyone? I know I’ve been guilty of all the above (and sometimes, I still am).

A personal moment from the book...

There’s a moment Anna shares in this chapter that still makes her wince.
It was during a casual relationship, and she remembers trying to give feedback. Not criticism. Just something simple like, “Can we slow down a bit?” And her date looked visibly embarrassed. Like she’d popped the bubble.

She immediately backtracked. She smiled. She tried to smooth it over.
And afterward she felt invisible. Like her needs didn’t matter.
But the truth is, she had taught him that she didn’t need to be listened to.

That moment made her realise that communication isn’t just about speaking.
It’s about building the internal permission to be heard.
Even when it’s uncomfortable.
Even when it changes the dynamic.

This is such a powerful share from Anna and I can’t wait for you to read the full story.

Tools in this chapter!

As I said above, there are over 40+ tools in the book. It’s jam packed of actionable ways for you to take control of your pleasure and enjoy your sex life. Here are a few from this chapter.

The Pre-Talk

A framework to help you prepare for difficult conversations around sex so you don’t go in reactive, but grounded.

Language Swaps That Land

Simple, respectful ways to express needs and boundaries that build connection instead of defensiveness.

Repair Rituals

Tools for reconnecting after a misstep, silence, or shutdown so shame doesn’t take the lead.

The Desire Debrief

A playful communication practice to explore wants, turn-ons, and “what ifs” — without pressure or perfection.

We are not born knowing how to talk about sex.
But we can learn.
And when we do, everything changes.

Because when you have the language, you get to have the sex and connection that truly reflects who you are.
Not just what you’ve been taught to settle for.

Your Weekly Framework to Turn Yourself On

1 thing to try:
💬 Say one real thing this week about what you want — or what you don’t want — in bed or in connection. It doesn’t have to be deep. It just has to be true.

2 questions to ponder:

1. What makes me feel safe enough to speak freely?

2. What have I been afraid to say out loud — and why?

3 content recs to explore:
🎧 Podcast: “How to Ask for What You Need” by We Can Do Hard Things
📖 Book: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
📱 Instagram follow: @yourdiagnonsense — honest, funny, boundary-boosting communication tools

Here’s to a week of real conversations, deeper connection, and letting yourself be heard without apology.

You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to get it out.

Sent with giddy pleasure,
Billie x

Personal Support

^{I’m Billie, a certified Holistic Health Coach, Sex Educator and author of the sexual wellness manual, ‘Turn Yourself On’, published by Penguin. I’ve also delivered a TedX on the future of pleasure and co-founded the #1 sexual wellness app, Ferly (where we’ve helped 600,000 enjoy sex more).}

^{I empower women to enjoy their sex lives, cultivate deeply nourishing relationships and find their power!}

^{I can help you:}

• ^{Turn painful sex into a source of ease and pleasure so your body can finally exhale.}

• ^{Experience orgasm more easily by quieting the noise in your head and reconnecting with your body.}

• ^{Reignite your desire so sex stops feeling like a task and starts feeling like something you genuinely want without the guilt.}

• ^{Rebuild intimacy in your relationship so you feel close again, and separation no longer feels like the only option.}